How you define happiness has a lot to do with how happy you are. If your definition of happiness is out of reach, for example, then being happy is just too difficult for you.
We will take a look at the most common ways that people describe happiness, and then help you define it in a way that will help you and not get in your way.
Take a look at this chart, showing three ways to define happiness. Two of them don't work well at all, and one puts you in charge and can work very well for you.
You may think that happiness is not a possibility for you, or that it just can't happen in your life. It's not unusual to think that way.
True happiness is foreign to many people, but that doesn't mean it's completely out of reach. It's really much closer than you think.
Let's look at some examples of how happiness can seem out of reach:
Each of these approaches will keep happiness out of your reach. Lets' keep going here, so that you can define happiness in a way that works for you.
A lot of good folks just like you think that happiness comes from people and things around you changing. By now you've probably noticed, however, that you just can't get them to act right.
Most people are directed by their own needs, dreams and goals, not by what you want them to do. This is one of the biggest challenges you will face.
Let's learn some more about seeking happiness outside yourself:
Now you're ready to get to the real answer...finding happiness inside you!
No matter how you define happiness, it comes from inside you. Even when it seems to be caused by something outside you, the feeling actually occurs and originates from within.
The more you accept this and work with it, the more you are able to create ongoing happiness for yourself. Let's look a little closer at how this works:
However you define happiness for yourself, you probably would like more of that wonderful happy feeling in your life.
I've been meditating (Dr. DeFoore here) for many years now, and I really encourage you to explore this further for yourself. The benefits to your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well being are beyond measure.
A lot of people don't understand meditation, and think that it is some sort of religious or metaphysical thing. In fact, meditation is just the practice of being still and quiet for periods of time. Many groups and organizations have developed their own style and focus for meditation, but the basic practice is pretty simple and straightforward.
You can develop your own style of meditation, one that works best for you. Listen to previews below of a program I developed called:
You will hear an overview of the forms and styles of meditation, so that you can choose and develop your own personal preferences. You will also learn the basics of how to meditate, including several meditation techniques.
You will learn what meditation is, and what it is not. You will learn about postures to use, equipment you might (or might not) need, and guided vs. silent meditation. There is no right or wrong way to meditate.
If you agree that the best way to define happiness is to recognize that it comes from inside, then this program is for you. Your satisfaction is guaranteed.