Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
These self motivation tips will surprise you. Every human being experiences the emotions of envy, anger and desire, and we're often taught that these are bad, and that we should avoid them.
Surprise! You can learn to use your natural envy, anger and desire to your immediate and lasting benefit. The fact is that when you simply judge these emotions as bad, and attempt to suppress them, they sometimes just get worse.
But when you use the tips and techniques we will outline for you here, you will actually transform these otherwise destructive feelings into something that is good for you and your relationships as well.
Here's an overview of how it works:
Sounds strange, I know, but it works. Envy is a natural human emotion, and everyone feels it at least a little bit at some point.
We just naturally have a tendency to compare ourselves to others, as you'll learn in this excellent podcast on NPR's Hidden Brain.
So, since it's going to happen anyway, why not make it work for you, instead of just making you feel bad? As you go through life and see others with happiness, health, success or love that you want and don't have, the feeling of envy is bound to come up.Here's how to turn it into an opportunity instead of a problem:
The tricky part here is to make it work in your mind. You don't have to convince yourself that you can have the same amount of money, the same house, the same relationships, but just something good in that direction that will make you feel good.
Your goal is simply to celebrate and enjoy the good things you see around you in other people's lives, instead of being brought down by them.
Healthy anger is simply powerful emotional energy that fuels effective action. Think of M.A.D.D. (Mothers Against Drunk Drivers), and how they channeled their anger directly into effective action that has made the roads and highways safer for all of us.
Let's say you want some self motivation tips on how to be consistent with your diet and exercise. We'll walk through the steps with that goal in mind.
Here's how it would work to motivate yourself with healthy anger:
These self motivation tips will work, but only if you use them enough to become skilled and proficient. So, it's not a matter of whether these tools work, it's a matter of whether you use them enough for them to have a chance to work.
Make up your mind to give it 21 days straight. Do this exercise daily, and see what happens.
Desire, like envy and anger often is seen in a negative light. In fact, desire is an extremely powerful and positive emotion that can be used to motivate you to succeed in reaching all of your goals.
All of the self motivation tips in this article contain the use of desire as a point of focus for what you want going forward. However, there are some very specific ways you can use your desire to make sure it's working for you and not against you.
Here are the steps:
These are the same methods used by many great athletes and successful people across the board. Learn more self motivation tips here.
This program gives you full understanding of the steps to building gratitude, appreciation and optimism in your everyday life, which will lead you to the motivation and fulfillment you're looking for. This is re-training your brain to make you happy!
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