Authored by William G. DeFoore, Ph.D.
When you find happiness, it's not because it was outside you, or because you misplaced it. You will find it rising up from inside you, when you train your mind to follow these basic guidelines.
That's good news. Happiness is just as available to you as your other emotions of anxiety, frustration and excitement. It does require more effort, however, because your default brain functions take you in the direction of the negative emotions, and to generate the positive emotions requires intentional effort and practice.
But it's worth it! Let's get started.
Think about this...so many good things are right there, all of the time, just waiting and wondering if you're going to notice them.
Don't leave them lonely and disappointed...look around and notice and smile at all of the little things that make your life better. I promise you that it will help you raise your happiness level!
Here are your first three steps:
These methods work...if and only if you use them! Try it, right now, and you'll feel a little better. And the more you practice these skills, the stronger you will become in generating and maintaining a happy state of mind!
Talk It Up!
After spending some time focusing on these good things, be sure and talk to your friends and family about it. That will make the happiness stronger in you, and maybe (if they're smart...) they'll join in!
You don't have to worry about focusing on problems, your brain's default problem-solving function will take care of that for you. It's automatic.
But if you just allow that to run all of the time, you will be far more stressed than you want or need to be. And, when you're under too much stress for too long, your problem-solving abilities are diminished, adding to your problems.
So...here's how you train your brain to shift its focus to solutions, which will lower your stress, and increase your capacity for high functioning across the board.
Remember, you are literally training your brain to follow a different path here, and it takes practice. Need more self-motivation? Check out these self-motivation tips.
Want more? Read about 10 simple ways to find happiness.
This program gives you full understanding of the steps to building gratitude, appreciation and optimism in your everyday life, which will lead you to the motivation and fulfillment you're looking for. This is re-training your brain to make you happy!
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